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Online Dating for Dummies | 
 enlarge | Authors: Judy Silverstein, Michael Lasky
Publisher: For Dummies
Category: Book
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Pages: 312
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Dimensions (in): 9.1 x 6 x 0.8
ISBN: 0764538152
Dewey Decimal Number: 646.7702854678
UPC: 785555866669
EAN: 9780764538155
Publication Date: November 21, 2003
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Chances are, you've heard about Internet dating from a friend, or an online banner ad has caught your eye. If you've given online dating a passing consideration, you may have some fears from all those graphic horror stories that jar your senses – and your sensibilities. Or you may think that meeting people via the Internet is only for the disenfranchised or socially unskilled. From their own experiences, 20 million people can tell you otherwise. Online Dating For Dummies will get you off the fence and on the Internet dating path – with the skill of a seasoned pro. Like your best friend, this fun reference will give you the straight scoop on Gearing up with the right computer hardware Overcoming preconceived notions of who is online Talking the online lingo Enjoying conversation in chat rooms Considering date site options Establishing your screen identity Facing the consequences of not posting a photo Internet dating is growing at double-digit rates every year, while other forms of finding a connection are flat or falling off. Internet dating, although far from perfect, is becoming the most effective and efficient method of getting introduced to a large number of available singles. Online Dating For Dummies shows you how to get your feet wet and how to dive in, making informed choices and exercising good judgment as you Sign up for a trial run on a dating site Try to describe yourself for your personal profile Initiate your first e-mail contact Make your first in-person meeting memorable Identify frauds and players Figure out what not to do if you really want to meet someone Jumping into online dating with no preparation at all is possible – but not practical. If you follow the techniques in this friendly guide, your odds of meeting great potential matches will greatly improve, and you'll have far more fun in the process.
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 Online Dating for Dummies - a ROCK SOLID Dating Book October 21, 2009
April Braswell (Las Vegas, NV)
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
As a Dating and Relationship expert and coach, I make a point of reading a lot, and I mean a lot of dating and relationship books. "Online Dating for Dummies," is really good. It's another great rock solid book from the fantastic "For Dummies" series of books from Wiley.
Singles who are super sophisticated from certain metro areas like Seattle, LA, New York, and San Francisco might turn up their noses at the section which talks about what kind of computer needs you will have. However, when leading a Seminar in Las Vegas with daters who are less technologically savvy than the tech elite, indeed, some don't even have a computer at home. What I so appreciate in the "For Dummies" series is how thorough they are about covering at topic and indeed addressing it as "A Reference for the Rest of Us!"
What is so unique and marvelous about OLD4D is that the co-authors are a now-married couple who, yes, met each other via internet dating. Now, yes, the book came out in 2003. And certain tips and tactics of online dating seem to change every 6-18 months. So will every single word of this book still pertain to internet dating now? No. Is this still an excellent book with page upon page of useful and relevant information pertinent for current online dating? YES!
Throughout the book, Silverstein and Lasky provide their female perspective and male perspective on, everything, and I mean everything including a full (tastefully addressed, still retaining a PG13 rating)chapter devoted to Sex. Their providing their Female/Male personal perspectives is part of what makes OLD4D unique and engaging.
OLD4D is chock full of step-by-step instructions about going online, remaining safe, and pursuing internet love that it is completely worth your time and money and get a copy, read it, and implement it.
 Fine if you are totally green about online dating. July 3, 2009
Charles W Hayles. (Portsmouth, UK.)
The book is well put together as all the "Dummies" guides are, but assumes the reader has barely laid hands on a computer before. As a consequence of that, several chapters are taken up explaining things like "you need a PC, a mac will do". I guess that is partly because it was written in 2003/4 though, so we will forgive it that.
An entry on page 68 entitled: "Steering clear of those e-mail order brides" bugged me a bit. Having thoroughly researched the "e-mail order bride" arena, I thought their comments that "these sites border on scams" and more, to be wholly inaccurate and very misleading. Rather than dismiss all Eastern European and Russian women in a few paragraphs as they did, far better to explain that the book is unable to cover such a large side topic in much detail, and steer those interested toward specialist books catering to that genre, such as Russian Bride Guide.
Chapter 6 covers the big known dating sites like Yahoo, Match, Lavalife, etc. We all know about those, but there are some handy tips in there.
Assuming you know your away around a computer already, know how to set a email address up, and all the mundane stuff like "how to find an internet provider", you can safely start reading at Part III (page 91) as all what goes before will be of no use to you.
On the whole, there is nothing earth-shattering you will read here, but it is worthy of a read nonetheless if you can get it inexpensively. I will be investigating other similar books written more recently though. The five years since this was written is a long time in the internet dating world.
Handy Guide for Adventure April 29, 2009
Edward G. Simmons (Atlanta, GA)
The authors, who met each other through online dating, encourage a positive sense of adventure while guiding newbies through the basics of online dating. There is guidance for every detail of getting setup in an online service. There are especially good chapters on how to handle sex online, e-mail etiquette, and safety tips to consider when meeting people. The authors point out that unhealthy experience can happen, but they emphasize that most experiences are positive when common-sense precautions are taken. They recommend taking a long time with e-mail as the best way to get to know people before moving on to telephone or in-person contact because, they say, it is easier to get more personal and even intimate in thoughtful e-mails than it is in more direct personal contact.
As a veteran of online dating, I thought this book would bore me, but I was wrong. It is very entertaining, especially when the authors speak in their own separate voices and disagree with each other. They say their guidance is based on hundreds of interviews with online daters as well as their own personal experience which culminated in a long-distance romance. If you want advice that is practical and very readable, this book is for you.
Gordon Scott Edwards, author of Internet Safari, Finding Love Online At 65
Good pre-screening advice, but... January 11, 2009
Linda J. Fraser (Minneapolis, MN)
1 out of 2 found this review helpful
Online Dating for Dummies contains good advice about screening future dates by being sure you see their photo - it could be your cousin! Translating the written profile to weed out the more obvious fibs is also a great tip. Improper English could mean you are going to have coffee with someone who really wants a green card more than they want you. The advice the book is lacking is how to make each of those failed internet dates a learning experience. I would like to know how to polish my dating skills with a looser, so that I can really shine when I finally find a good one.
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 My Review June 30, 2008
Maryland Gentleman (MD)
3 out of 4 found this review helpful
My reviews always air on the side of benefit of the doubt to the author. I thought this book was an easy read and had some basic common sense tips about dating online. One thing she emphasized was having a pic and safety, two important concepts.
Many other common sense tips as well. One thing I noticed in the book that I wasn't thrilled about, she says if you are not happy in a date, then go to the bathroom and call a friend to show up and pretend you didn't realize they were coming. ( well you still would not break a date if you were happy). Another tip, tell them you have to go home to take care of your kids... " just make sure you have kids" etc.
I believe that 99.9% of people do not want to be lied to. If you are not happy and not miserable, why not cut the date short, but be polite. Such as I need to get going in the next 10 minutes. I have some work/laundry ( or whatever honestly) there is.
She says never go for dinner on the first date. Well some enjoy dinner even with someone new. She says it can be like a 90 minute prison. I don't agree. I feel unless a person is acting out of line that you can learn new things about someone and you can even help put a smile on someones face even if you aren't interested in dating them. Bottom line: Treat the other the way you would want to be treated, no need to stay hours longer if you are not happy, and no need to make b.s exuses, polite honesty is what everyone likes.
You wouldn't leave a sales call after 2 minutes if you didn't like the person's hair or voice, so treat a date as you would a sales call, be polite be honest and be nice, try to make the experience a good one for both even if you are not compatable, you may have made someone's day and you are a better person for that. Good luck with dating, and remember, be polite, be fair and be kind, you will be much happier and more respected and loved for it.
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